Are you a worrier? Do you struggle with obsessive thinking, especially when you’re anxious or stressed? If so, simple coping skills may be more helpful than trying to think your way out of the problem

Humans are thinking creatures. More than any other animal on Earth, we have the ability to think, reason, analyse, remember our past and imagine a future that hasn’t even happened yet. …


What story do you tell yourself about your life? That you’re a failure, not good enough or unlovable? If so, it’s time to write a new, more positive story

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What is the story of your life? What do you tell yourself about your successes and failures, key life events, those you love and those who have hurt you in some way? In my therapy practice, I find that people often tell themselves a story about their life that is distorted, highly critical, focusing heavily on perceived mistakes and failings. …


Did you experience childhood trauma? If so, it is possible to heal with the right guidance, help and support

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I am passionate about helping people heal their trauma. It’s what I do all day, in my consulting room in north London. As a Cognitive Therapist, Advanced Accredited Schema Therapist and a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, I draw from a variety of proven, trauma-informed models, but my main model is schema therapy. This warm, compassionate, powerful approach was developed by Dr Jeffrey Young in the late 1980s to help trauma survivors.

And it really works, helping people overcome even the most…


This has been one of the toughest years in living memory, so many of us are struggling with our mental health. Here are three things you can do, today, to help yourself feel stronger and happier

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As the pandemic nears a deeply unwelcome anniversary, many people are struggling. In the UK, it’s nearly a year since the first lockdown — a year like no other in most of our lifetimes. And that year has, of course, taken its toll on us, both physically and mentally.

When I speak to my clients about how to cope right now, I always start…


We all know that self-compassion is a good idea — but it can be hard, especially for those parts of you that you really don’t like. Here’s why being kinder to yourself is important — and a step-by-step guide to developing self-compassion

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One of the key discoveries in neuroscience over the past 20 years has been that we are not one, homogenous self — we are not just ‘Sally’ or ‘Jim’, even though it very much feels that way. Instead, this new theory argues for a ‘multiplicity of self’, which basically means we have lots of different parts of our…


Many of us struggle with low self-esteem, or feel like we’re not likeable or lovable. The root cause of this not-good-enough feeling? A Defectiveness schema, which can be healed

How do you feel about yourself, deep down? Do you like yourself? Feel good about your achievements? Think you are doing OK, day to day?

Or, like so many of us, do you feel that you’re not good enough — unworthy, not likeable, not achieving much with your life, or somehow bad or wrong at your core? If you do feel this way, you will probably lack confidence, perhaps struggling with…


If you struggle with stress, anxiety or depression, fostering greater self-compassion will really help. Here’s a step-by-step guide to doing just that

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The most exciting new developments in psychotherapy at the moment are a fusion between three approaches: cognitive therapy, neuroscience and Buddhist psychology. Cognitive therapy is the most effective form of ‘talking therapy’ for a whole host of problems, such as anxiety, depression, eating disorders and phobias.

Neuroscience has come on leaps and bounds in recent years, mainly because of MRI scans of the brain, which show us which parts of the brain ‘light up’ when, say, we get…


Are you curious about mindfulness? Heard about it in the media but still not sure what it is, or how to practice it? Here’s a guide to getting started

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Mindfulness is a real buzzword at the moment. From an obscure Buddhist practice it has become recognised by some of the world’s leading doctors, scientists and psychologists as a remarkably simple, easy-to-learn yet highly effective tool for improving our physical and mental wellbeing.

Jon Kabat-Zinn is one of the leading figures in this mindful movement, and if you want to learn more about it his wonderful book, Wherever You Go, There…


If you feel threatened, your brain goes into red-alert mode, pushing you to fight, flee or freeze. Understanding how your brain works in those key moments will help you respond to situations more calmly and skilfully

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Although many of us are now city-dwellers, living technologically advanced lives, for the vast majority of our time on Earth we did not live this way. For millions of years, humans lived as hunter-gatherers in small tribal groups. These people lived in villages surrounded by barriers to keep all of the hungry animals and enemy tribes out. …


Are people close to you often irritable or grumpy? Do you feel shut out or pushed away? They might have an Angry Protector mode — here are the telltale signs

In schema therapy, we have a number of modes that feel, express or help us deal with anger. If you are in Angry Child mode, the anger will be felt and expressed like a child feels and expresses anger. It will feel intense and stormy, leading to shouting, swearing, breaking things or slamming doors. This is the mode people are in when they act out their aggression in road rage…

Dan Roberts

Dan is an Advanced Accredited Schema Therapist with a private practice in London. He is also a teacher, supervisor & writer. Find out more at danroberts.com

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